It’s Not Your Door: How To Deal With Rejection

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Rejection is a natural part of life. Whether you are getting rejected from a game at recess or shooting your shot at #FutureBae fails, it happens. We have all dealt with rejection at various stages of our lives. Though it sucks, its something that we will continuously deal with for the rest of our lives.

It is quite easy for some to take the punches and dust themselves off like nothing happened. But for others, it is hard to not take these sorts of rejections personally. I am one of the latter. I have been rejected more times than I can count. From friends, men, jobs, groups etc.,so I have had a bit of practice in how to cope with such uncomfortable situations.

giphy-19We have to stop thinking of rejection as failure.  Just because something doesn’t pan out how we had hoped or planned, does not mean that we have failed. Who said our plan was the only way to reach our goal? Who said this was your soulmate? Who said this was your dream job? We typically put these pressures on ourselves based on our desired plans, not facts. What is for you if for you, and no one can take that away. Trust in their being a greater plan for your life. Let God take the wheel. God’s plan is always better than our own.

giphy-23Stop analyzing what you “did wrong.” Everyone has personal preferences, and you might not be everyone’s cup of tea. That is 100% okay. You are you and there is nothing you can change about that. If you presented your best self in any given situation, you cannot blame yourself for others not accepting you. That is their loss.You will never be able to force someone to like you or accept you. Honestly, would your really want a situation that was forced anyway? Do your best and forget the rest.


giphy-9In the same breath, if you feel you need to change yourself to be accepted by that friend, that guy, that job, or that clique; then that is the first sign that you didn’t belong there in the first place. If you want to truly walk in your own truth, you can never try to adjust to please someone else. You should strive everyday to make yourself happy and be satisfied in who you are. Fuck what they think. At the end of the day, you have to live with who you are. 

Another tip is to seek God before you seek people. Naturally, we try to please those around us, which is another reason its quite hard to deal with rejection. We often fear we have disappointed not only ourselves, but those close to us as well. As hard as it may be, it is important to rememmebr that trying to please everyone else is the quickest way to drive ourselves crazy. Put your focus on you and your relationship with God. Once you start to feel more comfortable in that, it makes it easier to accept the not so easy rejections.

He will always bring the right person or situation around that you need. You already know he may not come when you want Him, but he always is on time. He is the only person we should be seeking validation from. I promise that if you put more focus on God, he makes things fall into place so effortlessly that you begin to wonder why you were even trippin’ off that rejection in the first place.

giphy-17Always remember that you are a gem. One of a kind and unique in every way. No one can do you better than you can. Every obstacle, rejection, or unplanned step is all apart of His ultimate plan. There are no wrong moves, only wrong reactions. Don’t beat yourself up or put yourself down because of what someone has told you or done to you. You’ve over come before and you will again.



Published by Mia

Just a St. Lunatic turned Brooklynite who is obsessed with coffee, afros, and making young women feel invincible.

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